Turn Your Disappointments into a Miracle

As we “get over” Christmas, most of us begin to contemplate and prepare ourselves for another year, do you wonder what this season will bring for us, our friends and our family, and for those around us. It's not surprising to find many of us facing continued hardships of a struggling economy, waning health and difficult (or non-existent) relationships, besides the typical "unknowns."

Just this week I have received several prayer requests and some communications from our pastor about folks with some serious health problems or other issues.
Isn't this the time of year when everyone is "supposed" to be happy, where wishes "come true," and everything turns out perfect (just like on the Hallmark and Lifetime channels)? Maybe that's why so many families head to Disneyworld for the holidays, where it claims to be the "Happiest Place on Earth."

In many ways, this time of year seems to remind us of our sadness and disappointments more than it heals them. Maybe we just expect too much from the season.

Disappointment

One dictionary defines disappointment as " the feeling of being unhappy because something that you hoped for or expected did not happen or because someone or something was not as good as you expected " and expectation as "a confident belief or strong hope that a particular event will happen."

It is interesting is how similar the "secular" definition of expectation is to the "biblical" definition of faith.

Faith means being sure of the things we hope for and knowing that something is real even if we do not see it. (Hebrews 11:1 NCV).

From the world's point of view, expectations are something we believe and hope will happen while from God's perspective, faith is being sure of what we hope for.
To expand a little further, expectations seem to be what we hope "we" (ourselves or others) can do (or have control in doing); while faith is believing what God is going to do. If our disappointment comes from the failure of somebody we believed in or put our trust in (including ourselves), maybe our expectations are placed more on "mankind" than on our faith in God.

This isn't to say we shouldn't have expectations for ourselves (or for others) or by having faith in God alone that we won't ever be disappointed. There are many situations in life (and in death) where we may never understand the reason "why" things happen even with a strong faith, like the loss of a family member, a marriage breakup or a horrendous crime. However, faith is having the hope of being certain God is in control, believing he knows and loves us even in the worst of times and knowing his way is perfect (Psalm 18:30).

Hope

"...God had planned something better for us so that only together with us would they be made perfect.” (Hebrews 11:40).

If we continue to place all of our hope and expectations only in ourselves, naturally we will be disappointed. None of us are perfect nor can we expect to be. However, if we place our hope in God, "together" it will be made perfect.

Peter often had solid unwavering faith, hope and insight, while he was with Jesus.
• When Jesus asked him, "Who do people say I am?" Peter answered, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.” (Matthew 16:13-19)
• When he “walked on the water and came toward Jesus”. (Matthew 14:22-29)
Yet, many of us are quite aware of the time he wasn't.
• When he denied Jesus three times. “Then Peter remembered the word Jesus had spoken: “Before the rooster crows, you will disown me three times.” (Matthew 26::75)

Peter was more steadfast when he was with the Lord than when he was apart from him.
May times, we can sometimes feel as if life is an uphill, "us" against "the world," struggle. Although there are difficult situations to face, we don't have to face our struggles alone. We have been offered a relationship with Jesus and a guide in the Holy Spirit, to live each day together with the Lord instead of on our own.

Paul writes: “Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us. Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory.
We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.” (Romans 5:1-5).
Even still, many of still seem to be at the end of our rope "hoping" for a miracle.

Miracle

We need to remind ourselves that God is in every moment of our lives because He has a plan for us.

"For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11).

Oftentimes when a trial arises, we immediately question "Why?" instead of "What?" We should be asking ourselves, "What is God doing through this bump in the road, struggle or heartbreak?" and "What do I need to learn, grow, change or do to be a part of it?"

Sheila Walsh, Christian author and speaker, recently shared a story about being delayed at an airport causing her to miss her connecting flight. As she was in line waiting to be rebooked, a distraught woman ahead was silently pleading for God to show her he still knew who she was. When the woman turned around, she recognized Sheila from the Women of Faith Conferences and burst into tears explaining how much Sheila had ministered to her over the years. That was her sign from God.

Sheila could have looked at missing her plane and thought, "Why me God?" Instead she made herself available to whatever he was doing and (together with Him) ended up being used as a God-given sign for that woman.

Someone once said, "Instead of always looking for a miracle, BE a miracle." What this means is instead of always seeking for something to happen for you, go out and be that (miracle) for someone else.

We often think we know what is best for our lives and put pressure on ourselves to "make it happen," and when our expectations fall short we become disappointed. However, if we look beyond our own struggles and allow ourselves to be used by God, we may be surprised at the miracles we may see. God doesn't need us for his plans, but if we join together with him maybe we can be a part of something that is made perfect.

Don't miss what he is trying to do through you this New Year.

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